Me And BF stumbled onto a little something just now.. . And we had a deep deep conversation about it. The Perils of Life. It's very ironic when lashing out against own culture is spilt publicly... This has nothing to do with individuality, but talking as a whole society. Growing up and living life as this race, ppl should be proud of it and not damning, blaming every single rule, tradition or nic-nacs... Silly. Then who's gonna bury you when you die? Who taught ya the culture of growing up as this race? How do you go about everyday life being shunned away from your own kind? Traditions are there so that we feel a sense of belonging. And me and BF agree that in this society, it's slowly dieing out. Scary.
Then , the topic switched to how the world is so small and everywhere you go, he will know him, and he will know her, and she will know him.. and he will be her brother's mother-in-law's sister's auntie's son. It's nice to know if everybody is linked and related. But the world is not perfect. If it is, there wouldn't be WAR. Hatred lingers in the air. Misunderstandings occur so much regularly in everyday life, it's heart-wrenching. I stumbled upon this..
Cheryl Richardson, author of Take Time for Your Life, gives you the types of friends to watch out for.
The Blamer
This is a person who consistently blames you and/or everyone else for her problems. The world and the people in it always seem to create havoc for this person, and instead of taking responsibility for her life, she'd rather blame others.
The Complainer
This person likes to hear her own voice. She constantly complains about what isn't working in her life and yet gets energy from complaining and dumping her frustrations on you.
The Drainer
This is the needy person who calls to ask for your guidance, support, information, advice, or whatever she needs to feel better in the moment. Because of her neediness, the conversation often revolves around her, and you can almost feel the life being sucked out of you during the conversation.
The Shamer
This person can be hazardous to your health. The shamer may cut you off, put you down, reprimand you, or make fun of your or your ideas in front of others. She often ignores your boundaries and may try to convince you that her criticism is for you own good. The shamer is the kind of person who make you question your own sanity before hers.
The Discounter
This is the person who discounts or challenges everything you say. Often, she has a strong need to be right and can find fault with any position. It can be exhausting to have a conversation with the discounter, so eventually you end up giving in and deciding to just listen.
The Gossip
This person avoids intimacy by talking about others behind their backs. The gossip gets energy from relaying stories, opinions, and the latest "scoop." By gossiping about others, she creates a lack of safety in her relationships, whether she realizes it or not. After all, if she'll talk about someone else, she'll talk about you.
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